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Ute Heggen's avatar

Link to story of an ex-wife: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=24d56qtFYiM

This is the public version of what I went through 3 decades ago when my then husband "transitioned." There was so much DARVO. I was demonized, but accused of "monstering" him (literally, in court documents). For me the most egregious aspect of this is the politics of the self-serving "affirmative" doctors and psychologists, who will not admit what they have unleashed on the family and society. I recently started a YouTube channel (after I got reinstated--was banned for stating facts) to help anyone and everyone reconnect through mind/body movement, which is what those who think they're "in the wrong body" should be doing in the first place. The channel is the same as my pen name: Ute Heggen

uteheggengrasswidow.wordpress.com

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Sarah Henderson's avatar

So much I was nodding along with - I'm not even in the UK, I'm in New Zealand, but the abuse pattern is the same here... I've been attempting to codify the language pattern of this gaslighting group of abusers, like a corollary to what you're saying, that it's an observable, measurable pattern. I figure if a new linguistic code can be identified, it makes it easier to say 'he is speaking the Code', identified here' to remove any instance of it from policy and documentation.

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